Paula Fargo, Author at Paula's Point

July 26, 2024

So Damn Lucky

When Oscar Wilde said, “Life imitates art far more than art imitates life,” he sure knew what he was talking about. My husband and I were in a horrible car accident where we were hit from behind on I95 in northern New Jersey by a drunk driver going well beyond the posted speed limit. We spun around, rebounded off the guard rail and were thrown back into the roadway just in time for the same driver to hit us again, T-boning our car. Prior to this, I’d never been in an accident that bad, and what people say is true…

May 14, 2024

Moves Like Swagger

First question – is “swagger” good or bad? The answer, of course, is both, like many things in life. Swagger is a behavior that is confident, strong, even defiant. However, swagger can easily slip over the ever-moving line (depending upon who is doing the judging) to arrogant, insolent, or aggressive. Do you have swagger? What is the source of your swagger? Are you particularly competent in your field? Are you incredibly athletic and competitive? Do you have great beauty or charm? Have you earned or inherited prodigious assets? Whatever the cause, can we agree that we should keep our swagger…

April 30, 2024

Just eat already!

Want to know if you’re the type of friend who talks more than listens? Look at who has more food on their plate after a “catch up” lunch. If your plate still has most of your menu selection moldering on it, guess what, IT’S YOU! Yes, I know people eat at different rates of ravenousness, and some pick at their meals while others wolf them down. Correcting for that, I’m still convinced that the person doing most of the talking is not eating their meal as quickly as the poor companion who can continue forking food into their mouth while…