It rarely looks like misuse when you’re the one in charge There’s a line I’ve always liked: The people you misuse on the way up are the same ones you might meet on the way down. It’s a little blunt.A little uncomfortable. And completely true. I’ve been around long enough to watch how people behave when things start going their way. Not in theory. In real rooms. Over real years. And here’s what I’ve noticed: Most people don’t think they’re “misusing” anyone. They’re just moving fast.Making decisions.Protecting their position.Surrounding themselves with people who make things easier. It doesn’t look like
Somewhere in midlife, many women discover they’ve become invisible. It turns out that’s not entirely a bad thing. If you are a woman somewhere in midlife, you may have noticed something curious. We have become invisible. This was not a dramatic “wrap the cloak of invisibility around you and poof, you’re gone!” kind of vanishing. I’m referring to a much more insidious, gradual, drip-campaign sort of situation. If you are my peer—a woman in early to late middle age—and you work hard to look attractive with fashionable clothes, tasteful makeup, and maybe even keeping up with TikTok trends, this may
(Translation: I built a landing page and felt like a tech wizard.) When I was in high school in the late 70’s and early 80’s (my god that’s so long ago!), I took a “Computer Programming” class. We learned to code in COBOL, BASIC, and FORTRAN. My public school didn’t even have its own mainframe — there was only one for all of Baltimore County. Once a month, our class boarded the big orange school bus to Loch Raven High School, toting our punch card decks with our programs. We handed them to some mysterious tech who then ran them.