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I’m Not Trying to Complain

Good Excuse to Complain Who doesn’t love to complain? Admit it, when you are upset about some issue or perceived slight or unmet expectations, doesn’t it feel good to just let loose on the representative of said irritation? I’ll cop to my share of venting inappropriately. With my advancing age comes greater experience and breadth of view. It occurred to me recently that HOW you complain can be the difference between getting a happy resolution or simply raising your own blood pressure. While I hate to continue to quote tired old saws, “you catch more bees with honey than with…

Trust Me On This

“Trust me. I’m in sales.” “The check’s in the mail.” “I won’t tell anyone.” “Don’t you believe me?” All of these statements and questions are asking others to put their trust in the person doing the asking. Why would one person trust another? Would you believe a stranger who walked up to the you on the street and asked you to trust him? I’m guessing not. Would you believe a close friend who had never steered you wrong in your long relationship? I’m thinking yes, you would. When you are not quite a total stranger to someone, yet not his…

I’m Just a Girl Who Can Say No…and Does, Frequently

There’s something to be said for amiability. Smiling pleasantly, getting along, going along. People like amiable people. You know what happens to those who are so affable, so unbelievably agreeable? They get stuck doing EVERYTHING! That used to be me, I’ll admit it. I’m a people pleaser, I like making people happy. It’s great to bask in the warmth of someone’s glowing appreciation for your thoughtfulness and consideration. Until you start to suffer. There’s only so many hours in a day, so many minutes in an hour. If you’re always “doing” for someone else, then you’re the one who is…