First question – is “swagger” good or bad? The answer, of course, is both, like many things in life. Swagger is a behavior that is confident, strong, even defiant. However, swagger can easily slip over the ever-moving line (depending upon who is doing the judging) to arrogant, insolent, or aggressive. Do you have swagger? What is the source of your swagger? Are you particularly competent in your field? Are you incredibly athletic and competitive? Do you have great beauty or charm? Have you earned or inherited prodigious assets? Whatever the cause, can we agree that we should keep our swagger
Want to know if you’re the type of friend who talks more than listens? Look at who has more food on their plate after a “catch up” lunch. If your plate still has most of your menu selection moldering on it, guess what, IT’S YOU! Yes, I know people eat at different rates of ravenousness, and some pick at their meals while others wolf them down. Correcting for that, I’m still convinced that the person doing most of the talking is not eating their meal as quickly as the poor companion who can continue forking food into their mouth while
Do you remember Flat Stanley a two-dimensional boy in children’s books? I used to read these books to my daughters when they were young. Here’s something to consider: there are very few “Flat Stanleys” in the world, and that is a good thing! So many people are “multi-dimensional,” good at more than one thing. However, at work, or at home, or as a friend, it is sometimes hard to see what that “other thing” is that they are actually good at! People have hobbies, outside interests, and skills learned as children or in previous jobs. If one digs a bit