September 7, 2018 Do Not Undertake to Underestimate Are you guilty of underestimating people on occasion? I know I am, and, I often discover, to my own detriment. It’s easy to do, though, isn’t it? Judging a book by its cover, making a snap decision about someone else’s abilities without any reasonable evidence, having your mind closed to unexpected possibilities. Sometimes in life, people rise to your expectations of them. Similarly, if you have low expectations, people tend to meet them as well. How can you find out for sure if you are underestimating the abilities of another person? Perhaps pursue that evidence I just mentioned…Ask a question,…
July 20, 2018 I’m Just a Girl Who Can Say No…and Does, Frequently There’s something to be said for amiability. Smiling pleasantly, getting along, going along. People like amiable people. You know what happens to those who are so affable, so unbelievably agreeable? They get stuck doing EVERYTHING! That used to be me, I’ll admit it. I’m a people pleaser, I like making people happy. It’s great to bask in the warmth of someone’s glowing appreciation for your thoughtfulness and consideration. Until you start to suffer. There’s only so many hours in a day, so many minutes in an hour. If you’re always “doing” for someone else, then you’re the one who is…
March 9, 2018 Nobody’s Fault But Mine How are you as an apologizer? Does it stick in your craw? Make you annoyed because you felt justified in whatever action you took? Or do you apologize too easily? Want to keep the peace and just say you’re sorry to get it over with? Well, neither situation is ideal. In order for an apology to be meaningful, it must be, by definition, “full of meaning.” You must mean what you say, and how you say it. Interestingly, apologies can have very little to do with “fault.” In fact, “fault” is a concept that always seems rather unpleasant. In my…
